The house we have lived in since we arrived in Derby in December 2012 has been sold and we are in the process of packing up to move on. We have been so lucky to secure a council property, just down the road from where we live at the moment. Although our current property and […]

A light just left the world (written in May 2018)

  I found out this afternoon that my ex-partner of three years, Ian, died unexpectedly in his home 2 days ago. I lived with Ian for three years in my early twenties and our dating caused a bit of a scandal as he was 23 years older than me – 45 when we got together. […]

Things have been a bit quiet on my blog for the last six months. A lot has happened, mainly positive, and with some challenges. The main change has been a house move. We still live in Derby but the house we were in had to be sold because of being owned by my partner and […]

My mental wellbeing: a visual reminder

  Tomorrow I facilitate a workshop in which women with perinatal mental distress will be asked to explore their health journeys visually. This caused me to remember a similar collage that I created at the request of a wonderfully supportive nurse to represent my own health and well-being needs and challenges. it is an honour […]

My retreat was a deeply moving and intense experience. Mindfulness and meditation have taken a special place in my life in the last three years. I first encountered them via Compassion Focussed Therapy, a therapeutic practice that was originally developed in Derby by Dr Paul Gilbert. I have meditated pretty regularly for the last two […]

Living life through the cracks

Cracks are funny things to talk about when you are autistic and have mental health problems. People¬†who are mentally ill are referred to as crackpots, or just cracked. As individuals and increasingly as a society we talk about the cracks that people fall into as we become more complex individuals and block contracts become less […]

One of my friends is a very special person, who is beautiful, kind and hides her ability, talent and light away at times. I read something when I went on retreat that made me think of her, straight away and although these aren’t my words, they say exactly what I want to better than I […]